I think we can all agree that change is freakin’ hard, right? I mean, if it were easy, we’d all be doing it!
But fact is, most people stay stuck right where they are (even when it may not be serving them) because it’s just easier. It’s comfy. It’s what we know. It’s certain.
And a lot of times, change happens not because we particularly want it to, but because we are forced into it.
The loss of a job, the death of loved one, a medical diagnosis, etc. These are just some areas where change happens, whether we like it or not.
But what about the times when we actually want change? How can we do it and make it stick? The make it stick part is the hardest, right?
There are really three main components to lasting change. I liked to call them DBA – Desire, Belief and Action.
I want to focus on Desire and Action first.
This one is pretty easy. We usually know WHAT we want. To lose weight, have more money/abundance, get the great job, have a better relationship. There’s NO shortage of desires, and they usually stem from thinking about what we don’t want. That’s a topic for a whole other post, but focusing on what you don’t want is a sure way to get it!
Similarly, a lot of times we KNOW what to do. There is no shortage of information out there if you want to lose weight and get into shape. There are side hustles you can do to make money, while you still work your day job. There are oodles of relationship advice resources with steps to take to improve and enhance your relationship.
What then, is it that holds us back? If we have the D (Desire) and we know the A (Action), then why the heck can’t we execute, or follow-through if we do execute.
Yep, this is where the B (Belief) comes in. Our silly limiting beliefs and behaviors that have been programmed into our subconscious from a very young age. We all come into this world as perfect little humans. We are a blank slate, just ready and waiting to soak up everything that is given and said to us. And for awhile it’s great – until it’s not.
Somewhere along the way, whether it’s from parents, siblings, peers, etc., we get a little messed up in our thinking.
SN: before I go further, this is NOT about pointing fingers or playing the blame game. As Jen Sincero says:
I can pinpoint the reason for pretty much every limiting belief I have, and you know what…even though my family, old friends, etc. may have contributed to them unconsciously, they were doing the best they could with what they had. ‘Nuff said on that point.
So how do we kick our limiting beliefs to the curb? Awareness is the first step, as well as identifying them. Then we can go about learning how to re-program our subconscious with new empowering beliefs.
I dive deep into this in my free e-course, BBB: Build Your Body, BELIEF and Bank Account. It’s 5 parts, but totally self-paced, and you’ll come out of it with a better understanding of what makes you tick and what keeps you stuck. This stuff is NOT easy, but necessary if you truly want to step into the life you desire and deserve.
You can sign up for the e-course here. As you’re going through it, let me know what comes up or if you have questions! I’m always here!